My sister forwarded me an article from the New York Times Magazine. (Keep those sexy forwards coming to  

The article is about the quest for a drug that will stoke sexual desire in women. A  "female Viagra". Drug companies are currently running trials on these drugs, one of which is called Lybrido.

In the article they refer to a lack of lust in women with an appropriately unsexy name: hypo-active sexual desire disorder or H.S.D.D. for short.

It’s an eight-page article stuffed with great information. These three paragraphs grabbed my attention:

“For a sizable segment of the undesiring, the most common antidepressants, the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (S.S.R.I's) , can be the culprit. 
Millions of American women are on S.S.R.I.'s, and many of them would have good use for a pill to revive the libido that has been chemically dulled as a side effect of the pill they take to buoy their mood.”

“But for many women, the cause of their sexual malaise appears to be monogamy itself. It is women much more than men who have H.S.D.D., who don’t feel heat for their steady partners.”

“Lesbian couples seem to fare no better, and maybe worse, in keeping their sexual ardor for each other. The term “lesbian bed death,” coined by the University of Washington sociologist Pepper Schwartz in the ‘80s, has been critiqued as overstatement but not quite as fiction.” 

I guess researchers have been hot on the trail of a female desire drug since the 80’s when Viagra showed just how much money can be made from sexy pharmaceuticals. 

Have they never heard of tequila? 

But seriously, this is an important topic and one that deserves much greater inspection than I can cover in a single blog post. We can't keep throwing pills at something as sacred as female sexuality. I plan to take a deeper look at topics like erotic empowerment and sustainable sensuality in future posts.

But until then...margaritas, Zumba, Nia, yoga, hot springs, meditation and of course, reading and writing erotica keep my sexy fires burning.

How about you?  What stokes your sexual desire? 


Sexy link: Click here for the full New York Times article
5/31/2013 02:08:09 am

Intimate conversation and connection. A sense that the physical desire my partner feels for me is matched with emotional connection. Oooh thats hot.

C.C. Havens
5/31/2013 05:16:32 am

J, yes, ultimately sexy that. For me the most powerful orgasms arise from a combination of emotional and physical intensity. That vulnerability. That willingness to be raw.

6/1/2013 02:14:23 pm

Being away from my woman for 4 weeks strokes my sexual desires. Could you give me any help in dealing with this?

C.C. Havens
6/1/2013 10:26:38 pm

I have a few ideas... Try this one: Express that desire. Let your woman know how deeply, how passionately you miss her. Feeling desired is the ultimate sexy pill for women. Channel that longing into a lust letter, sexy texts, e-mails or a voice mail message that she can listen to again and again. Fire her up with your longing. Your sexy reunion will be that much hotter. You never just might ignite her Inner Stripper.


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