Last week I promised the wisdom of The Queens.

But then the snow gods bestowed twenty-four inches of champagne powder on the mountains by my home and my Inner Ski Bum kind of, like omigod totally, took over my life.  Because plunging clit first through that most magical of mediums amidst a tribe of silver-barked aspens is one of the most ecstatic things I do.

But I did manage to survey a couple Sexy Queens who incidentally are a little hard to track down.  They aren’t exactly waiting by the phone for someone like me to call and ask them how they’ve managed to stay so sexy.  They are out doing sexy things.

Like taking in, fully, twenty four inches.

So from the lips of my Sexy Mentors, here's how to sexify your approach to getting older.  I had planned to mix and blend their responses and serve them up like a top shelf margarita or an article for More magazine.  But, given the snow conditions here in Colorado, I’m going to serve it to you neat.

Question posed by Blog Me Sexy:  What advice do you have for women who are struggling with feeling sexy as they get older?


Recognize that you are indeed losing the power and beauty of your youth.  Grieve it, move on and don’t get stuck there.  Because you aren’t losing your power and beauty, you are just gaining it elsewhere.  Focus on what your power is now at your current age.  What are your strengths?  What are your greatest assets?  Focus on those, cultivate them.  That’s sexy.

When you find you are no longer the center of attention or attracting as much attention, look at why you needed that and let it go.

Recognize the gifts of getting older: 
Your refined sexuality and sexual experience
Greater emotional stability
Your interpersonal and organizational skills
You’re ability to love purely

Buy beautiful lingerie.  Just for yourself.  A Sexy Queen recommendation: Elle McPhearson’s lingerie line

Wear heels, notice how you walk differently in them.

Smile a lot.  Laugh a lot.  Look people in the eye.

Take care of your skin.  Wear sunscreen.  Good products do make a difference.

Take care of your body:
Don’t drink too much. 
Eat healthy foods.
Exercise. Lift weights twice a week and get aerobic at least three times a week by doing something you enjoy, walking, skiing, dancing…

Buy good-fitting, sexy jeans.

Dress well.

In your 20’s it’s was easy to be attractive. Sexiness at 60 comes with confidence.  You have to work at it. 

Enjoy the aging process.  Embrace it and focus on the positives.

Don’t try to look 20 when you are 50. And don’t try to compete with younger women.  Remember that you are attractive in your power and confidence.


A Queen in her 70’s told me that what they say about post menopausal vigor is all true.  Once she got through that transition, she’s felt great for the past twenty years and still does. She emphasized how important it is to take care of your body and health so you can ride that wave as long as possible.

Stay open to new experiences.

This blog post would not have been possbile without the help of some very gracious, sexy women. Merci mille fois.

If you have anything to add, do express your sexy self in the comments.  


2/7/2013 11:27:20 pm

I do a lot of this...thinking more, I've concluded that it is less about sexiness than facing the second half of life. The first was an accidental gypsy, with more adventure than most people ever dream of. But now I don't want to sacrifice my body doing manual labor for a boss, just for me, so that necessarily leads to life changes. Also being married later in life changes that lovely irresponsible flirting and possibility. None of these are bad things. Just things that you need to recalibrate as you go on. And once you do, the sexy piece fits in.

2/8/2013 12:58:27 am

Yes of course being married you have to let go of the irresponsible flirting and possibility but don't stop flirting!!!

Shoot, I thought the post was getting too long so I left out the queen wisdom about flirting. Chrysalis if you read this, share some of that juicy stuff about flirting with boundaries.

Madison Snow
2/16/2013 08:35:50 am

It's so true! I just had my 48th birthday and feel sexier and more in touch with what that means than ever! Sexiness radiates from confidence and taking care of and loving yourself. Thank you C.C. for the sexy reminder. I'm gotta go flirt now :)


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